The 55 Concepts: Self Help Article Series
by: Michael Cavallaro
A Meaningful Relationship
Being a human being is truly an art though few people think of it in this way.
Many people are searching for meaningful relationships. Some reasons for this search are, to complete themselves, to feel fulfilled, to place their love on to someone or be loved by someone etc. These are but a few common reasons for people getting into relationships. Of course there are many more reasons, as many as people can imagine. What most people don't understand is that you cannot have a full meaningful relationship with another human being until you had or begin to have a meaningful relationship with yourself.
The first step to having a meaningful relationship with someone else is to have one with you. This means going on an inner journey of self-discovery. In this process the object is to learn about your patterned behaviors and beliefs systems that contribute to any or all challenges you have had in the past and may still have, in having relationships with other human beings.
Four steps to a meaningful relationship:
Self-discovery - inner exploration of your beliefs patterned behaviors and attitudes towards other people.
Change - find processes that assist you in making changes in your behaviors beliefs and attitudes.
Unconditional acceptance of yourself - once you have discovered some of your behaviors, beliefs and attitudes in regards to relationships, accept them. Know that these are just programs that can be changed. Change the ones that don't work in regard to having meaningful relationships and keep the ones that work.
Learn to love yourself - learning to love/unconditionally accept yourself and be happy with who you are is required for you to have a meaningful relationship with someone else.
© Michael Cavallaro 2010